Some great points all around. As a former Model S owner as well (2020 Performance), and current Model Y owner, I'll add some selected input...
Tesla software is still superior, with the best UX/UI in the business overall, but CarPlay has really grown on me since the addition of router planner...
I love it. There's a lot I actually do like about Tesla so our "family car" is a MY LR, but I'd def consider the GV60. A tarted up Ioniq/EV6 is a good thing. Half of the Audis are tarted up VWs right and people dont seem to mind ?